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BE NONJUDGMENTAL

11/23/2015

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BE NONJUDGMENTAL
A good practice to have,
on our path to self-love,
Is the practice of being
nonjudgmental of self.
This may take a lifetime or two to perfect, ;-)
But the practice isn't about achievement,
It's more about AWARENESS.

Look at the word "Non-Judge-Mental":
Non: DON'T
Judge: EVALUATE
Mental: with the MIND

Easier said than done.

In addition, look again:
Judge = someone given authority to make rulings
Mental = of the mind
Therefore,
Judgmental = Authority to make rulings is given to the Mind
Self-Judgmental = Authority to make rulings FOR THE SELF is given to the Mind.

I DON'T THINK SO!
I don't know about you, but my mind has not been my biggest advocate and I don't think it would be ruling much in my favor!!!

My opinion of myself is just that:
An opinion...a judgement.
From who?
The mind. The ego.
The ego likes to judge. Both positively and negatively.
But it has no basis in Truth.
We think it does, and we believe it so easily.

Are you an "ego maniac with an inferiority complex"
Thinking a lot about yourself
And coming up "less than" more often than not?
Me too.
Always have been. Might always be.
(Not so much anymore, though. Thank goodness.)

That's the mind's job.
Put it to work and its sole purpose is
To be critical...of us...
All day long.

Here's the thing though:
It TRICKS US...
Because sometimes it judges us as
AWFUL
And sometimes it judges us as
AWESOME.
But either way...
IT IS STILL THE MIND.
And it still isn't based in Truth.
So don't believe it!
It (the mind) is never neutral.
It is always evaluating, always comparing,
ALWAYS JUDGING.

According to the Supreme Mind Authority,
I'm either the WORST writer
Or the BEST writer.
I'm either LESS THAN
Or BETTER THAN
I always come up short.
Or I'm the best the world has ever seen ;-).

Can you relate?

Let's be honest with ourselves.
We are neither the best things since sliced
Bread, nor the worst.
We are BOTH.  And we are NEITHER.

As long as I'm in this body
Walking this earth plane,
I'll have an ego.
And I'll have a judgmental mind.
So I might as well become more aware of it,
And I might as well train myself to Lead it,
Instead of it leading me.

Some days I dance with my ego better than others.
Some days it takes the lead and I am horrified at the things I think and say.
Some days my spirit leads and I feel totally at peace.
But one thing is for sure,
If I practice being aware
AND, if I train myself to be a "witness,"
(Watching the mind instead of believing it) THEN, I can get better at catching my Mind doing its thing,
And I can find more peace more often.

Yes, it's time to take the mind off the
Pedestal Of Authority, wouldn't you say?
It's time to put a new
Authority of Self in Charge.
Let that Authority be
Our Heart
Our Body
Our Intuition
Our Gut
Our Inner-Knowing
Our Source
Our Spirit
Our God...or even
Our Team of Friends who know us and love us and encourage us more than we love and encourage ourselves.

Let's collectively surrender the white flag of the Mind
And declare
VICTORY of the HEART.

The time has come
For the Heart to take the Holy Reigns
And lead us out of Mental Darkness
And into Heart Light.
For in the Light of the Heart,
The mind can shine
But no longer lead.
In the Light of the Heart,
All dark and light Unite
And become One.
And that, dear friends, is how we have
Peace of Mind,
Peace of Heart,
and Peace of Life.
❤️

Til next time,
Be mindful of your judging.
Be forgiving of your judging.
And be understanding of this Human Being called You.
xoxo,
Meg
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Be Uninhibited

11/19/2015

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What would it take
To be Uninhibited,
To act without hesitation,
Second thought,
Or reservation?

What would it take to trust that the
Real you, the raw you,
the deepest and
most true you,
Would be wildly accepted,
Wonderfully revered and
Truly celebrated
When she shines her Light
In the World?

How could you
Anticipate and
Prepare
For
Such
A
Transformative
Event?

Get ready.
Because it is coming.

Beyond shadows of doubt
And illusions of fear,
You will be
ACCEPTED
CONGRATULATED and
CELEBRATED
For
Stepping Up
Speaking Up and
Showing Up
As
The
One and Only
Powerful
Incredible and
Uninhibited
You.

How might that feel? Pause for a moment and imagine, with your arms wide open,
Taking in all that glory.

It might feel so good that
You would have to do it again
and again!  And when it happens, please do. ;-)

The invitation today, from The Universe of Love states:
"Will the real, uninhibited you please rise."

xoxo,
Meg

(Let's hold the intention today of being uninhibited...and see what happens!)

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Be Compassionate

11/12/2015

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Be compassionate
Towards yourself.
The way you would
Towards any other human being.

This one is hard.
We expect so much OF ourselves.
And FROM ourselves.

We have HIGH bars.
We have EXTREME expectations.
And here's the thing:
WE DON'T EVEN KNOW THEY ARE EXTREME!

Have compassion
For yourself.
The way you would have compassion for
A child who was trying their best
But was beating themselves up
For not measuring up.

Because that's what we do.
If we're human.
We have this idea...
This ideal image of who we are "supposed to" be
And what we're "supposed to" get done.
And when we don't measure up...
When we fall short...
We aren't kind.
We aren't understanding.
Are we?
Not by habit.
Not by our programming.
We've been programmed to
Scold ourselves into
Doing better
And being better.
All the shoulds and should haves
Come piling down on our sweet heads
Until we break from exhaustion.

It's time to change that.
We can start today.
We can start with a sweet, compassionate
DO OVER.
We can have a
NEW BEGINNING.
And we can
START FROM SCRATCH.

Compassion is our new mantra.
Forgiveness is our new choice.
Understanding is the new medicine that will
Take us boldly in the direction of our dreams
And OPEN OUR HEARTS
To ourselves.
Once again.
❤️

p.s.
Be compassionate with yourselves today,
Dear ones.
Lower the bar.
And raise the acceptance.
We all need this
For ourselves.
For each other.
For the world.

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Self-Love. Inside Job.

6/27/2015

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In video #1 of the Self-Love Video series, I share some pretty raw experiences that I had with self-hate. And I talk about a time when I fully realized that Self-Love was an inside job.

"I realized that there is no one else who could give me self-love. No one else could do it for me."

It took me being okay with where I was.

"Just let me hate myself."

"Let me be me and accept me for not liking myself in this moment."

"In this moment I don't like myself and it's okay."

That was years ago.

But I remember it as clearly as if it happened yesterday.

It was a moment in time when I stood up for myself and declared that others trying to help me feel better about myself was actually hurting me...and it was my job to make myself feel better.

I spoke up for myself that day and I was transformed. Looking back I can say I was empowered.

The journey of self-love is an inner journey.

Self-love is not found outside.

It is an inside job.

#endselfhate
#endselfwar
#selfloveisaninsidejob

(p.s. Ladies, hear the rest of the story by signing up to receive the video series at www.tinymessages.com/self-love-video-series---intro.html)

(p.p.s. Men, I am not excluding you. I sense that your experiences of self-war and self-hate are of a different nature. But I don't know that for sure and I can't. However, they are just as valid. And it's just as important that they end. However, I may not be the best person to support you in that. Then again, who knows...in the future, I might give it a try. Thank you for your patience while I focus on women. You can still stay connected here and in the process maybe gain more understanding of the women in your life. And, if it feels right, share these posts with them!


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Let's Talk About SELF-LOVE...

6/25/2015

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Today I published the first video (in a series of three) on the topic of SELF-LOVE...for women.

I DON'T SPEAK from being the expert on self-love...not by a long shot.  But I do speak from the experience of going from being the "poster child of low-self esteem" (my label) with self-criticism coming out the ying-yang, to being quite an ordinary woman who happens to be pretty ok...with herself, myself, in this moment.

And I do speak from years of working with women face-to-face in sessions and in classrooms listening to struggles of poor self-image, perfectionism, high bars and everything in between.

But why now?  Why do I bring up the topic now with such gusto.  Three reasons:
- It is coming to me.  I did not go searching for it.  As of a few months ago, I didn't even like the term 'self-love'.  But it came seeking me.  On my walks.  In my conversations.  During my daydreams.  Something wanted to be addressed.  Something wanted to be talked about.  NOW.
- I wasn't interested in self-love because I was too busy planning my next 'tinyhabits' class.  I held 2 classes so far, but the 3rd one just wasn't flowing.  It was as if the universe was telling me it had other plans for me...plans to put the habits class off on hold to focus on something more basic, more necessary, more fundamentally needed at this point in time.
- And, as my own tinyhabit practice of working on my Children's storybook dwindled to a halt, I realized that I was trying to put the cart before the horse - whatever that means.  I was forcing my book to get 'out there' before I had some more basic needs met 'in here.'  'In here,' referring to my own journey, my own job of building my muscle of Self-Love.

And so the story goes, I surrendered to the fact that this thing - this Self-Love thing - wanted to happen.  Validated by gads of positive comments on Facebook when I posted about it and supported by an influx of ideas pouring into my skull as I walked around the lake, I decided to take on this thing hook, line, and sinker and make a video series...without ever even publishing a video in my life.  (Hence the very raw feel of the videos...to put it nicely ;-)

So here I am on the evening of my "put-myself-out-there-in-a-big-scary-way" video debut, trying not to 'count likes', check for subscriptions, or pay attention to any regret that rises.  Because in all honesty, these things do happen. 
- Little Meg comes out looking for approval
- Ego comes in like a banshee measuring 'success'
- And Fear does everything it can to ruin the party. 

As I am learning, these very human things happen to the best of us ESPECIALLY after we expand our selves and try on new endeavors or creative projects.  And so I do what I have been training myself to do...focus on serving my tribe and take the next right action.

So for now, serving my tribe meant writing this short personal blog giving the background of my SELF-LOVE video series.  And the next right action...right now...is getting some sleep.

That means we get to talk about SELF-LOVE some more!   Perhaps tomorrow!  This has been fun.  Thanks for stopping by.

(...to be Continued)




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Contemplate Life...

3/16/2015

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In the hustle and bustle of everyday life,
Take the time,
Every once and a while, to...
Stop. Breathe. And Contemplate Life.
Instead of pushing, trying, thinking, analyzing, stressing, planning, 'strategizing', reviewing, and demanding...
Take a break.
Stop.
Step away.
Breathe.
Let go.
And Contemplate Life.
Contemplation brings a different energy that opens the door for New Perspectives, New Awareness, and New Ideas.
Give it a try.
Just for today.
Contemplate Life.
❤️
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Let It Flow

3/6/2015

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Relax.
Let Go.
Let it Flow.

Its time to 'up the ante' and put more Trust
in the Workings of the Universe
(with all her Magic, Marvel, and Majesty)
to take care of us and the details of our lives.

Relax.
Let Go.
Let It Flow.

Let this be your mantra for your day
and for the upcoming weekend.

All is well.
And we are in good hands.

Trust that it is so...
❤️


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Don't Try.  Allow.

3/5/2015

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Instead of pushing the river
And swimming upstream today,
Allow things to flow.
Instead of trying with all your might
And using force,
Allow things to flow.
Just for today,
Instead of having a set agenda
And making things happen,
Play with letting go of the reigns
And allowing the day to flow and Unfold in its own creative way.
Just for today,
Let go and Trust.
Just for today,
Don't Try. Allow.

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Imagine...

2/26/2015

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PictureImagine...
Imagine.
What a powerful word!
Such a magical word!
What can you imagine today?
Can you imagine the seemingly impossible?
It takes energy to imagine.
Or does it?
Start small.
Start with something easy.
But start.
To imagine.
Anything.
To build the imagination muscle, use it.
Right now...
Imagine a clean kitchen.
Imagine all the wash being done.
Imagine the hardest, most aggravating task you have to do...
being ALREADY DONE!

For me, that task is putting my Christmas decorations away in the attic.
Yes, the tree is down and out of the house, the decorations are off the walls, and the side tables are free and clear of "all things red."
Yes, even the dining room table which housed the sparkly round and pointed objects for several weeks is x-mas-free and finally showing its wooden self.
Yes, all of the Christmas decorations are nicely organized in clear plastic bins with red lids and are sitting next to the fire place ready to be carried up to the attic.
Bless my husband.
He was going to put it all away while I was out of town two weeks ago.  But that would have ended in murder.  So, I thanked him for his thoughtfulness, and strongly suggested that he NOT touch the Christmas stuff!!! 
(Letting go of control is an issue that I am well aware of and working on, HOWEVER, I was not willing to work on it WHILE I WAS OUT OF TOWN!)
Lol.
And so, there it sits.
Until now.
Now, in my imagination, I see myself (in very fast-forward-type motion) carry the bins up 2 flights of stairs, into the attic, neatly piling them on crates-with-wheels, and pushing them under the eaves of the roof to the back of the house where they will be safe until next Christmas.  Oh, and since we put up our decorations right after Thanksgiving, that gives us 9 months (give-or-take a few days) until we get them back out again!!!
So.  Now.  Task is complete.  In my imagination.
Does it count?  Maybe not in this 3-D world, but in the land of energy and imagination, IT SURELY COUNTS!
It counts BIG TIME!
It counts because IT GOT ME UNSTUCK.
It counts because I can now FEEL THE DESIRE to take physical action.
And it counts because AS SOON AS I POST THIS, I'M DOING IT!
Today, experiment with imagining.
Imagine imagining your whole life being exactly the way you dream it to be.
Practice imaging every day.
And see what happens!
Have an imagine-filled, amazing day!

<3


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Begin Again.

2/16/2015

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We all do it. We all fall short of our own ideals.
We eat junk food.
We skip exercising.
We quit something we started.
Whenever we find ourselves not living up to our own expectations, the BEST we can do for ourselves is look for the GOOD things we HAVE DONE. Instead of focusing on what we didn't do, we celebrate what we did do!

For example, last week I traveled for business. Saturday I helped my sister move. Sunday I was exhausted, and today my son has off from school. I have been out of my routine and I missed 6 days of my newly formed Habit of working on my Children's Storybook! But instead of berating myself for "messing up," I'm trying to focus on what I did do: I worked, I visited with old friends, I helped out my sister, I rested, and today I am spending the day with my son!

By focusing on the good things we have done for ourselves, we have more energy and positive momentum to BEGIN AGAIN. And the great news is that we can begin again any moment of any day. It doesn't matter how many days we have missed or how far away we are from our ideal. It only matters that we begin again. And begin again we will.
❤️


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