BE NONJUDGMENTAL
A good practice to have,
on our path to self-love,
Is the practice of being
nonjudgmental of self.
This may take a lifetime or two to perfect, ;-)
But the practice isn't about achievement,
It's more about AWARENESS.

Look at the word "Non-Judge-Mental":
Non: DON'T
Judge: EVALUATE
Mental: with the MIND

Easier said than done.

In addition, look again:
Judge = someone given authority to make rulings
Mental = of the mind
Therefore,
Judgmental = Authority to make rulings is given to the Mind
Self-Judgmental = Authority to make rulings FOR THE SELF is given to the Mind.

I DON'T THINK SO!
I don't know about you, but my mind has not been my biggest advocate and I don't think it would be ruling much in my favor!!!

My opinion of myself is just that:
An opinion...a judgement.
From who?
The mind. The ego.
The ego likes to judge. Both positively and negatively.
But it has no basis in Truth.
We think it does, and we believe it so easily.

Are you an "ego maniac with an inferiority complex"
Thinking a lot about yourself
And coming up "less than" more often than not?
Me too.
Always have been. Might always be.
(Not so much anymore, though. Thank goodness.)

That's the mind's job.
Put it to work and its sole purpose is
To be critical...of us...
All day long.

Here's the thing though:
It TRICKS US...
Because sometimes it judges us as
AWFUL
And sometimes it judges us as
AWESOME.
But either way...
IT IS STILL THE MIND.
And it still isn't based in Truth.
So don't believe it!
It (the mind) is never neutral.
It is always evaluating, always comparing,
ALWAYS JUDGING.

According to the Supreme Mind Authority,
I'm either the WORST writer
Or the BEST writer.
I'm either LESS THAN
Or BETTER THAN
I always come up short.
Or I'm the best the world has ever seen ;-).

Can you relate?

Let's be honest with ourselves.
We are neither the best things since sliced
Bread, nor the worst.
We are BOTH.  And we are NEITHER.

As long as I'm in this body
Walking this earth plane,
I'll have an ego.
And I'll have a judgmental mind.
So I might as well become more aware of it,
And I might as well train myself to Lead it,
Instead of it leading me.

Some days I dance with my ego better than others.
Some days it takes the lead and I am horrified at the things I think and say.
Some days my spirit leads and I feel totally at peace.
But one thing is for sure,
If I practice being aware
AND, if I train myself to be a "witness,"
(Watching the mind instead of believing it) THEN, I can get better at catching my Mind doing its thing,
And I can find more peace more often.

Yes, it's time to take the mind off the
Pedestal Of Authority, wouldn't you say?
It's time to put a new
Authority of Self in Charge.
Let that Authority be
Our Heart
Our Body
Our Intuition
Our Gut
Our Inner-Knowing
Our Source
Our Spirit
Our God...or even
Our Team of Friends who know us and love us and encourage us more than we love and encourage ourselves.

Let's collectively surrender the white flag of the Mind
And declare
VICTORY of the HEART.

The time has come
For the Heart to take the Holy Reigns
And lead us out of Mental Darkness
And into Heart Light.
For in the Light of the Heart,
The mind can shine
But no longer lead.
In the Light of the Heart,
All dark and light Unite
And become One.
And that, dear friends, is how we have
Peace of Mind,
Peace of Heart,
and Peace of Life.
❤️

Til next time,
Be mindful of your judging.
Be forgiving of your judging.
And be understanding of this Human Being called You.
xoxo,
Meg

What would it take
To be Uninhibited,
To act without hesitation,
Second thought,
Or reservation?

What would it take to trust that the
Real you, the raw you,
the deepest and
most true you,
Would be wildly accepted,
Wonderfully revered and
Truly celebrated
When she shines her Light
In the World?

How could you
Anticipate and
Prepare
For
Such
A
Transformative
Event?

Get ready.
Because it is coming.

Beyond shadows of doubt
And illusions of fear,
You will be
ACCEPTED
CONGRATULATED and
CELEBRATED
For
Stepping Up
Speaking Up and
Showing Up
As
The
One and Only
Powerful
Incredible and
Uninhibited
You.

How might that feel? Pause for a moment and imagine, with your arms wide open,
Taking in all that glory.

It might feel so good that
You would have to do it again
and again!  And when it happens, please do. ;-)

The invitation today, from The Universe of Love states:
"Will the real, uninhibited you please rise."

xoxo,
Meg

(Let's hold the intention today of being uninhibited...and see what happens!)

Be compassionate
Towards yourself.
The way you would
Towards any other human being.

This one is hard.
We expect so much OF ourselves.
And FROM ourselves.

We have HIGH bars.
We have EXTREME expectations.
And here's the thing:
WE DON'T EVEN KNOW THEY ARE EXTREME!

Have compassion
For yourself.
The way you would have compassion for
A child who was trying their best
But was beating themselves up
For not measuring up.

Because that's what we do.
If we're human.
We have this idea...
This ideal image of who we are "supposed to" be
And what we're "supposed to" get done.
And when we don't measure up...
When we fall short...
We aren't kind.
We aren't understanding.
Are we?
Not by habit.
Not by our programming.
We've been programmed to
Scold ourselves into
Doing better
And being better.
All the shoulds and should haves
Come piling down on our sweet heads
Until we break from exhaustion.

It's time to change that.
We can start today.
We can start with a sweet, compassionate
DO OVER.
We can have a
NEW BEGINNING.
And we can
START FROM SCRATCH.

Compassion is our new mantra.
Forgiveness is our new choice.
Understanding is the new medicine that will
Take us boldly in the direction of our dreams
And OPEN OUR HEARTS
To ourselves.
Once again.
❤️

p.s.
Be compassionate with yourselves today,
Dear ones.
Lower the bar.
And raise the acceptance.
We all need this
For ourselves.
For each other.
For the world.

In video #1 of the Self-Love Video series, I share some pretty raw experiences that I had with self-hate. And I talk about a time when I fully realized that Self-Love was an inside job.

"I realized that there is no one else who could give me self-love. No one else could do it for me."

It took me being okay with where I was.

"Just let me hate myself."

"Let me be me and accept me for not liking myself in this moment."

"In this moment I don't like myself and it's okay."

That was years ago.

But I remember it as clearly as if it happened yesterday.

It was a moment in time when I stood up for myself and declared that others trying to help me feel better about myself was actually hurting me...and it was my job to make myself feel better.

I spoke up for myself that day and I was transformed. Looking back I can say I was empowered.

The journey of self-love is an inner journey.

Self-love is not found outside.

It is an inside job.

#endselfhate
#endselfwar
#selfloveisaninsidejob

(p.s. Ladies, hear the rest of the story by signing up to receive the video series at www.tinymessages.com/self-love-video-series---intro.html)

(p.p.s. Men, I am not excluding you. I sense that your experiences of self-war and self-hate are of a different nature. But I don't know that for sure and I can't. However, they are just as valid. And it's just as important that they end. However, I may not be the best person to support you in that. Then again, who knows...in the future, I might give it a try. Thank you for your patience while I focus on women. You can still stay connected here and in the process maybe gain more understanding of the women in your life. And, if it feels right, share these posts with them!