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BE NONJUDGMENTAL

11/23/2015

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BE NONJUDGMENTAL
A good practice to have,
on our path to self-love,
Is the practice of being
nonjudgmental of self.
This may take a lifetime or two to perfect, ;-)
But the practice isn't about achievement,
It's more about AWARENESS.

Look at the word "Non-Judge-Mental":
Non: DON'T
Judge: EVALUATE
Mental: with the MIND

Easier said than done.

In addition, look again:
Judge = someone given authority to make rulings
Mental = of the mind
Therefore,
Judgmental = Authority to make rulings is given to the Mind
Self-Judgmental = Authority to make rulings FOR THE SELF is given to the Mind.

I DON'T THINK SO!
I don't know about you, but my mind has not been my biggest advocate and I don't think it would be ruling much in my favor!!!

My opinion of myself is just that:
An opinion...a judgement.
From who?
The mind. The ego.
The ego likes to judge. Both positively and negatively.
But it has no basis in Truth.
We think it does, and we believe it so easily.

Are you an "ego maniac with an inferiority complex"
Thinking a lot about yourself
And coming up "less than" more often than not?
Me too.
Always have been. Might always be.
(Not so much anymore, though. Thank goodness.)

That's the mind's job.
Put it to work and its sole purpose is
To be critical...of us...
All day long.

Here's the thing though:
It TRICKS US...
Because sometimes it judges us as
AWFUL
And sometimes it judges us as
AWESOME.
But either way...
IT IS STILL THE MIND.
And it still isn't based in Truth.
So don't believe it!
It (the mind) is never neutral.
It is always evaluating, always comparing,
ALWAYS JUDGING.

According to the Supreme Mind Authority,
I'm either the WORST writer
Or the BEST writer.
I'm either LESS THAN
Or BETTER THAN
I always come up short.
Or I'm the best the world has ever seen ;-).

Can you relate?

Let's be honest with ourselves.
We are neither the best things since sliced
Bread, nor the worst.
We are BOTH.  And we are NEITHER.

As long as I'm in this body
Walking this earth plane,
I'll have an ego.
And I'll have a judgmental mind.
So I might as well become more aware of it,
And I might as well train myself to Lead it,
Instead of it leading me.

Some days I dance with my ego better than others.
Some days it takes the lead and I am horrified at the things I think and say.
Some days my spirit leads and I feel totally at peace.
But one thing is for sure,
If I practice being aware
AND, if I train myself to be a "witness,"
(Watching the mind instead of believing it) THEN, I can get better at catching my Mind doing its thing,
And I can find more peace more often.

Yes, it's time to take the mind off the
Pedestal Of Authority, wouldn't you say?
It's time to put a new
Authority of Self in Charge.
Let that Authority be
Our Heart
Our Body
Our Intuition
Our Gut
Our Inner-Knowing
Our Source
Our Spirit
Our God...or even
Our Team of Friends who know us and love us and encourage us more than we love and encourage ourselves.

Let's collectively surrender the white flag of the Mind
And declare
VICTORY of the HEART.

The time has come
For the Heart to take the Holy Reigns
And lead us out of Mental Darkness
And into Heart Light.
For in the Light of the Heart,
The mind can shine
But no longer lead.
In the Light of the Heart,
All dark and light Unite
And become One.
And that, dear friends, is how we have
Peace of Mind,
Peace of Heart,
and Peace of Life.
❤️

Til next time,
Be mindful of your judging.
Be forgiving of your judging.
And be understanding of this Human Being called You.
xoxo,
Meg
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Let's Talk About SELF-LOVE...

6/25/2015

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Today I published the first video (in a series of three) on the topic of SELF-LOVE...for women.

I DON'T SPEAK from being the expert on self-love...not by a long shot.  But I do speak from the experience of going from being the "poster child of low-self esteem" (my label) with self-criticism coming out the ying-yang, to being quite an ordinary woman who happens to be pretty ok...with herself, myself, in this moment.

And I do speak from years of working with women face-to-face in sessions and in classrooms listening to struggles of poor self-image, perfectionism, high bars and everything in between.

But why now?  Why do I bring up the topic now with such gusto.  Three reasons:
- It is coming to me.  I did not go searching for it.  As of a few months ago, I didn't even like the term 'self-love'.  But it came seeking me.  On my walks.  In my conversations.  During my daydreams.  Something wanted to be addressed.  Something wanted to be talked about.  NOW.
- I wasn't interested in self-love because I was too busy planning my next 'tinyhabits' class.  I held 2 classes so far, but the 3rd one just wasn't flowing.  It was as if the universe was telling me it had other plans for me...plans to put the habits class off on hold to focus on something more basic, more necessary, more fundamentally needed at this point in time.
- And, as my own tinyhabit practice of working on my Children's storybook dwindled to a halt, I realized that I was trying to put the cart before the horse - whatever that means.  I was forcing my book to get 'out there' before I had some more basic needs met 'in here.'  'In here,' referring to my own journey, my own job of building my muscle of Self-Love.

And so the story goes, I surrendered to the fact that this thing - this Self-Love thing - wanted to happen.  Validated by gads of positive comments on Facebook when I posted about it and supported by an influx of ideas pouring into my skull as I walked around the lake, I decided to take on this thing hook, line, and sinker and make a video series...without ever even publishing a video in my life.  (Hence the very raw feel of the videos...to put it nicely ;-)

So here I am on the evening of my "put-myself-out-there-in-a-big-scary-way" video debut, trying not to 'count likes', check for subscriptions, or pay attention to any regret that rises.  Because in all honesty, these things do happen. 
- Little Meg comes out looking for approval
- Ego comes in like a banshee measuring 'success'
- And Fear does everything it can to ruin the party. 

As I am learning, these very human things happen to the best of us ESPECIALLY after we expand our selves and try on new endeavors or creative projects.  And so I do what I have been training myself to do...focus on serving my tribe and take the next right action.

So for now, serving my tribe meant writing this short personal blog giving the background of my SELF-LOVE video series.  And the next right action...right now...is getting some sleep.

That means we get to talk about SELF-LOVE some more!   Perhaps tomorrow!  This has been fun.  Thanks for stopping by.

(...to be Continued)




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